Self-Harm can involve:
- Picking at skin/reopening wounds
- Hair pulling
- Head banging
- Bone breaking
- Choking themselves
- Cutting off circulation with elastic bands, etc.
Stress can be real or imagined, healthy or unhealthy, different from person to person, and is anything that threatens us, challenges us, worries us or thrills us.
- emotional or physical tension
- feeling of being “off-balance”
- our body and minds way of preparing us for change
- built in warning system that says “ you need to pay attention to take care of yourself
- designed to help you survive
I’m worried about my friend…Obviously something has got your friend down or you wouldn’t be worried. Not sure what’s going on with them, but scared they might be thinking of suicide? Look at some of the warning signs here.
WHAT DO I SAY…
to my friend if I think he or she is at risk of suicide?
“You’ve been talking about death a lot lately. Are things getting so bad that you’re thinking about killing yourself?”
“I can tell something is wrong and you’re in pain. I’m here for you.”
“I can’t promise to keep this a secret. You are my friend and I want to help you. We need to tell someone who can help us.”
“I think we need to talk to someone who knows what to do to help you. Can we go talk to someone together?”
WHAT DO I SAY…
to my friend if I think he or she is self-injuring?
There are many reasons why someone may self-injure. Some of these include:
- Attempt at communication (cry for help)
- To feel something (prove they’re alive and can feel)
- To deal with strong emotions (physical pain instead of emotional pain)
The bottom line is that there is something that they are struggling to deal with. Self-injury is not the problem; the deep-rooted issue is what needs to be addressed.